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How to make sure no one will read your blog (or listen to your ideas)

not-listeningAfter only a few months at this blogging thing, I think that I have found something that I can truly say I have incredible perspective on: being a terrible blogger.

The blogging world has a set of values and ideas. I am certain that this phenomenon will make for the kind of stuff that fine academic institutions will soon create use to create literature and sociological theories. It sounds like the kind of class I would have taken, ENG 562: Blog Theory.

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Here are some of the blogging communication mistakes I have made.

THE LIST (of unwritten miscues…well, I guess they ARE written now, but, nevermind)

  1. Don’t post regularly. If you are not posting at least a couple of times a week, then don’t be shocked when nobody is regularly commenting or digging or stumbling or whatever stroke of validation you were searching for. In blog world, as well as the world outside, consistency matters over being clever…much to my chagrin.
  2. Being a great writer is better than being a good reader/listener. Blogging is to offer something to the world, so it needs to be unique. You begin this process by looking at and imitating other’s blogs. Find some to whom you can relate. Write down what you like. Start doing those things. If you are even mediocre, you are ahead of the game.
  3. Fall victim to overt ploys at traffic-nabbing. Being Stumbled Upon can be great, but that is the ADHD of web browsing. Stumblers and traffic seekers are sometimes like Homer Simpson when he was saw a military-grade deep fryer that could flash-fry a buffalo in 40 seconds, he whined, “Forty seconds? But I want it now!” Nothing is more important than consistent, relevant content. There is no secret traffic pill/search engine optimization pill. Anybody who says differently is selling you something.
  4. Join everything. It is not required nor is it an advantage to rocketship your name and presence into every single social networking site out there. You need something that you are going to add to each place. Also, it is not a requirement that you add every widget in the world to the side of your blog (or Facebook page or LinkedIn profile). Visit Adam Kreitman’s blog for more on how to not get sucked into the shiny, sexy, overwhelming vortex of social networking.
  5. Be afraid to screw up. I only learned these rules by breaking them and not by following advice. So, I really should have taken my own advice, not posted these, which allowed you to figure these out for yourself. However, these are merely suggestions, so, if you think I am off my blogging chair, then try it for yourself. If what I said doesn’t apply to you, please let me know how you did it. I need to learn.
  6. Feel the need to create the deepest most Earth-shattering idea before you start writing. I do this a lot. Ask yourself some tough questions…what types of readers do I want? What would they need? What is my goal in communication? Usually, they don’t need your ability to sound incredibly clever. They need something real they can sink their teeth into and implement.
  7. Don’t worry about your readers. While “good content” means relevant, it doesn’t mean clinical or verbose. Be terse. Be entertaining. Be authentic.

Looking over the list, it strikes me that these mistakes apply to the world outside of blogging. Being consistent, authentic and truly seeking to serve another person is just a more effective way to live and communicate. It took screwing up at blogging for this guy to get that.

ANSWER ME THIS

Here is my question…if you had to teach the ENG 562: Blog Theory course who would you use as your examples? How would you structure the course? What is unique to blogging language?

Also, please let me know if I missed anything important. I am still new, you know, with much to learn.

The person with the best reply gets to have a FREE lunch…note, that I am not specifying where the lunch would take place.

- Jeremy Nulik, Creative Energy Officer, St. Louis Small Business Monthly

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Helping others understand your innovation

I am not a wine connoisseur, nor do I understand the intricacies of what makes a good wine. I have pretended to know in the past, though. Swirling the Merlot around in the glass, swishing it between my teeth and saying, “hmmm…quite dry…and a faint hint of almonds.”

One thing that I do know is that they are prevalent in the St. Louis area. While many are based in outlying locations, they logically advertise to and service the urban and suburban markets. This means that your average St. Louis consumer encounters many marketing messages about wineries on any given day.

Two friends of mine opened a winery in Ballwin, Missouri that “provides quality wine with your personal touch.” Wine Necessities is a winery for do-it-yourself-ers. They have an area where you can make your own Pinot Blanc or Italian Sangiovese or whatever your palette desires. You can even customize the labeling that goes on the bottle for personal or business use. It becomes your wine – inside and out. They host parties and have social and community events around wine, etc.

This business presents interesting marketing challenge. How do you cut through the clutter of all the other wineries, appeal to wine lovers/wine makers and present an innovative idea (a wine-making, fun, social experience) to potential patrons?

How would you communicate what you do in a short and concise way to capture your innovation? To help people understand you are not just some other winery?

One place that I would look for help is from Chip Heath and Dan Heath of Made to Stick fame. In a recent Fast Company article, they outlined a great way to do just that. They call it the anchor and twist.

According to Chip and Dan, the best way to help others understand your new, innovative idea, is to start them with something that they already know, the anchor. Then, you hit them with what makes it different, the twist.

The challenge is that you sacrifice some amount of accuracy for the sake of helping people understand your company, product, etc.

One example that they give has to do with cardiopulmonary resuscitation (CPR).

The “cardio” part — pumping on the chest — forces blood to circulate. The “pulmonary” part – mouth-to-mouth breathing — gets oxygen to the lungs. CPR has been ingrained in mass culture for the past 35 years, but what if a new innovation came along that supplanted it? That’s precisely what happened in March 2007 when a team of Japanese researchers published a surprising paper in the prestigious Lancet medical journal. It tracked 4,068 adults who’d gone into cardiac arrest with bystanders present but not in a hospital. The shocker: Victims who received only the chest-pumping part of CPR had slightly better health outcomes than those who received full CPR, including mouth-to-mouth. For most victims, then, mouth-to-mouth was pointless.

The American Health Association had to take an old idea (CPR) and get the word out quickly about the new one (no more mouth-to-mouth). How could they communicate this new innovation to so many who were used to good ol’ CPR?

Eventually, “Hands-Only CPR” was the term that they decided to use to express the new idea. CPR serves as the anchor, and “hands-only” is the twist. This is not completely accurate…really there is no longer the “P” since there is no mouth-to-mouth. But, for the sake of helping an audience understand, they let some inaccuracy go.

Here are some attempts at doing that for Wine Necessities from my feeble mind:

  • Wine Necessities is the Build-a-Bear of wineries.
  • Wine Necessities – the DIY winery.
  • Get your hands dirty winery.
  • The you-too-can-crush-grapes winery.

TRY THIS ONE:

Do you have better ideas for my friends at Wine Necessities? Can you come up with one for your company or organization that you would be willing to share?

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What word cloud would your customers write about you?

When I meet someone for the first time, I have often wanted to hand them a preface. This would contain a few key moments from the past, failed relationships, funny/tragic stories, a songlist and a stack of DVDs (mostly bad 80s movies).

That way, when I say something like, “well, at least I have that going for me,” people would immediately recognize what I was talking about. Whether they would find me funny or not is another story.

Instead, what usually happens is that I get a few minutes into conversation, I say something that sounds inappropriate or misguided. Then, I attempt to explain my choice of words or reasoning for the placement of a story.

Personally, I am waiting for the folks at Google to come up with the iCloud. This is a digitally generated keyword cloud that would display above your head at all times. This way people would know what is important to you, how you define yourself and what your personality is like.

Here is what I think mine would look like:

This is how your iCloud may look after you realized you deleted all your episodes of your favorite reality TV show from your DVR:

You’re ready to make a killer sales presentation:

While you are dreaming at night:

All that would be required for this to come to fruition is some form of brain scanning device. This should be easy to come by for the Google folks. Aren’t they the royalty of the Inter-webs?

All of this is leaving out the possibility to tie this in with the social networking software and text messages. The Twitter people could grab a hold of this and the need to constantly update people on where you are and what you are doing. It could be the iCloud autoTwitter.

TRY THIS ONE OUT:

Go to wordle and create a word cloud for yourself and for your organization. Then, make one using the text from the last reviews of you or your company. You may notice a discrepancy, and that creates an opportunity to change what words your customers associate with you.

Really, the people at Google don’t need to create these. Everybody already sees them anyway…for better or for worse. They are writing one for you right now. As much as I would like to have a preface to make things easier for folks that I meet, people are already writing one for me. The cloud that we create for ourselves is pretty useless in relation to how others interpret who we are.

Your marketing does not belong to you, and you don’t get to write your word cloud.

So, what words are you putting out there? Please email me or comment below with your word cloud.

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The elevator speech – How to bore your potential customers

It’s the most dreaded question at business networking events: So…what do you do? (insert a tonality of feigned enthusiasm and slight exhale).

It seems like a simple enough question, but most people find it incredibly hard to answer.

This difficulty is magnified by the amounts of do’s and dont’s of the “elevator speech” – a.k.a. the surefire way to explain what you do, generate excitement and place any prospect in the mood to buy in about 15 seconds.

I was recently at a referral group meeting, and a person was asked to explain what she does. Immediately, there was this slight thoughtful pause (perhaps a prayer) – a sprinter in the blocks. Then, she launched into a myriad of business keywords that meant nothing, a group of “pain” words followed by some call to action that seemed to include me solving the Middle East crisis by using her print shop. I believe that there was even the old feel-felt-found thrown in there for good measure.

Most of her words fell on deaf ears since, in looking at the expressions of others around the table, they were concerned with their elevator speech. I know I was worried about mine…which was probably just as ineffective and equally as obnoxious.

The answer to much of this dilemma lies not in the words, tactics, colorful stories or mastery of human communications – it’s in the attitude or approach to why you network.

Do you go to spew a brochure on everyone’s shoes, or do you try to help people to find solutions? Are you there to get business, or are you there to give business? Are you desperately looking for the next sale, or are you making it easier for others to make sales happen?

In short, here is the solution:

Don’t talk about yourself. It makes you uncomfortable anyway.

Get them to talk…to tell their story. Find out why they do what they do. Ask them for their passion. Give them some good contacts. Seek to understand them as another human being. The results will amaze you. It works.

Why? Because:

  • Nobody cares what you do.
  • You look stupid and self-serving talking about yourself all the time.
  • Everyone can tell when you are playing the emotional- or buzz-word-bingo as though you have been coached to drop in keywords. People are not google searches. They are people. Talk to them as another of the same species.
  • You are not being authentic when you talk in a stilted and trained manner about your company.

If, for some reason, someone really wants to hear about you, then here are some questions to ask yourself so you can get started in talking about what you do:

  • What do your customers say that you do? This way you will get them. Example: Our customers tell us that we take the hassle out of prospecting.
  • How is your company part of something larger? Do you stand for something outside of your business? Example: We are the evangelists for doing business better in Baton Rouge.
  • What is it that your company accomplishes that you really are passionate about? This takes away any need to pretend to be excited. Just allow your natural belief to spill into your speech.
  • Open it up to criticism and review. Get your fans or friends to tell you your own story. It gives you a more accurate picture.

It may be a good idea to write these things down. Make them a part of what you believe and how you communicate.

HOMEWORK

Figure out 3 people in your circle that you can easily help without much effort on your part. In the next week, try to help them in the most selfless way that you can muster. This will accomplish many things. Among them:

  • You will form a closer relationship with these people.
  • They may think you are nuts.
  • You will begin to think of others first.
  • You will be mistaken for a do-gooder and will have to explain yourself.
  • You may actually end up with something to say that is actually interesting…for about 30 seconds. Hell, you may just be living you elevator speech.

Read my friend Gill’s blog and read the Go-Giver – it is a little book that brings to light certain axioms about our relationships with other people.

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Jeremy Nulik, Creative Energy Officer, St. Louis Small Business Monthly

What is blocking you from more creativity?

“We’ve already done that.”

How many times have you heard that at supposed “brainstorming” sessions for your organization? Perhaps, you have even been responsible for starting these meetings.

These often involve post-it notes, a guy with gelled hair and leather patches on his sport coat, fired-up talk of “creativity,” and dishes of candy. The meeting becomes a veritable business term BINGO game.

Let’s see…”paradigm shift”…”synergy”…BINGO!

This has to do with a skewed perspective on what creativity is. Creative thinking is not something bestowed upon a certain group. It can be learned.

To do so, you have to begin to understand a few simple things:

1. You don’t know everything. This has to do with things that we assume to be true. So often, we get wrapped into our ideas. Creativity has to do with the idea that you don’t have all the ideas. There is no end to how deep you can take this idea. Even the way that you think about creativity has to be changed.

2. The “been there, done that” model has no place. What you have done is your experience. You have had it for a reason. Be willing to look at the past in a new light. Just because one marketing tactic did not generate much in the way of results does not mean that it never will. Use experience as an opportunity to see what was behind those decisions. What motivated you to make the decisions that you have in the past? How commited were you to those ideas? This will allow you to see a different truth about the same circumstances…that is, after all, what we are after since…(see #3).

3. Creativity is an ability to see more of the truth. Some people that I have worked with in the past have tossed work on my desk. “Jeremy, we need some creative eyes on this thing. Can you take a look at this and give us some of your creative notions.” Well, no. Not really. Creativity is not a magic wand that I can hover over a set of numbers, ad campaign or article. It is just a truth that underlies a set of ideas. Often it takes more than one set of eyes to do that. Thus the reason for things like Pixar Studios‘s collaborative approach…or the way that most national chemical labs work. The truth requires more eyes than just two to see.

Creativity is an energy or a willingness to toss aside what is commonly understood to pursue a deeper truth. It is not a virtuous or noble pursuit, and engaging in creative thinking does not make you a superior human. However, it is necessary to grow a business, organization, project or a happy life.

A recent article that Adam sent me from Copyblogger does an awesome job of outlining the major blocks to creative thinking. I think that I have been the perpetrator of all of these at some point or another.

HOMEWORK

Read through the copyblogger article and find new ways to discover the truth about your organization or your team. Ask yourself which ways you are blocking creativity on your team, and find ways to stop or work around them.

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Jeremy Nulik, Creative Energy Officer, St. Louis Small Business Monthly

Millennials don’t really exist

There is a great amount of creativity and effort that goes into finding ways to sell books. Most of the time the effort is to try, through articles, media or blogs, to create some kind of pain.

Business books are notorious for this. They create more pain in an effort to make a need for their solution. Just run to the bookstore. You will never feel more inadequate in your life…you can’t sell, talk, think, write or manage correctly.

Emerging from the pop-business media dust cloud is a hot, new source of pain for business leaders – the Millennial.

There are organizations devoted to understanding millennials, managing millennials, politics for millenials, conferences devoted to millennials and ideas about how this group is going to rock the political structure of the United States.

My Gawd! It appears they will soon take over the world. Somebody alert Homeland Security.

So, what the H-E-(double hockey sticks) is a Millennial?

According to my trusty “Internet,” a Millennial is someone born between the years 1980 to 2000. Others have ’82 to ’97. Basically, it is anybody right now from the ages of 8 to 28.

I’m sure that if we got all those folks in a room that they would have the same views on politics, religious tolerance and work ethic. Yeah, right. I have a 9-year-old. When all of his friends of the same age get together, they can’t even decide on what movie to watch.

Here are some of the things that were so eloquently (do you speak sarcasm?) outlined about this generation on a recent 60 minutes spot:

  • Tech-savvy. They like their iPods and Facebook. At times, this is associated with a lack of emotional intelligence or face-to-face human interaction. Really? Hasn’t this been true of every generation? Isn’t the next set of whippersnappers a bit irritating because they adopt and use technology? Try this one, though. Go to your local mall or airport. Everybody is on a cell phone, Crackberry or something…most of them are in their 30′s and older – not millennials.
  • Lazy. They want to set their own work schedule and have a family/work balance. They may be pushy in asking for this. They won’t be in the office at 5:30 or looking at emails at 8pm. Really? Good for them. Somebody had to do it. Would we rather them encourage companies that want blind, open-ended allegiance? I thought we were past that. Just because they may not work 60-plus hours a week does not qualify a person as lazy. Have we forgotten about the “slackers?” Didn’t depression-era adults view their kids as lazy? I see a pattern here.
  • Narcissitic or praise-hounds. Blame Mr. Rogers. He told them that they were special. Now, they think everything should be handed to them. They need constant praise and attention. Really? What is more narcissistic than pointing out narcissism in younger people? Young people need immediate feedback, praise and attention. That is the name of the game. If you are not prepared for that, then you should not be in the business of raising children or managing employees. They want to learn the ropes and they need good mentors who understand.
  • Environmentally conscious and religiously tolerant. These folks care as much about how a company or a group does business as much as what it does. The how is important. People need to be authentic and welcoming to all people. Really? This is partially due to the fact that the world has not beaten it out of them yet. Don’t worry. They will lose hope soon if we keep on telling them that they fit into some manufactured generational bucket.

Here’s the problem: They may want your advice on business or life questions, or they may disdain your advice. They may IM their parents in the middle of a meeting, or they may not even know who their parents really are. NEITHER of these situations makes them of a certain generation. All of them make them human and in a Western culture.

Generation Y.2.0 or Millennials or People-Who-Lives-on-the-Interwebs are not unique…not any more so than anybody else in your organization. For the time being, they are one thing – young. People of a certain age have certain concerns in their effort to create happy and productive lives.

Much of my cynicism at the whole division into generations has to do with the fact that every generation in my family falls into some kind of gulf. I was born in ’78. My father was born in ’54. Where is our category? We have nothing with great or boom or x in the title. Maybe I just feel a little cheated. Can I make one for myself?

Here is the best analysis that I have seen of the generations.

Really want to know how to relate to the younger people on your team? Ask yourself these questions:

  • Do you remember what it was like to be young and unsure of things? Who did you turn to?
  • Do you remember when your friends and parents were important? How did that feel?
  • Do you remember the wonder that used to surround your life?
  • Can you understand an individual on an individual basis?

As soon as we look for the ways that we are similar and not how we can separate, I think that we will come to a better place as humans.

HOMEWORK

As I said, there is a great amount of creativity that goes into creating ways to sell books, conferences and other materials. What if you took that same amount of creativity and found ways to understand people on your team as people? They have fears, values, joys, etc. As a leader, your role is to grow in understanding of people, and, not to buy into half-baked ideas on how to neatly categorize them.

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Jeremy Nulik, Creative Energy Officer (CEO), St. Louis Small Business Monthly

The blue circle on small business

“Do we have blue circle?”

The signs hung all over the offices of the Baton Rouge Business Report, one of the fastest-growing and most successful business media outlets in the country. I avoided asking what that was all about at first, but, after a few days I couldn’t help myself.

“What is the deal with the blue circle?” I asked Julio Melara, president of the Business Report. Julio’s entire face lightened into a smile.

“I’m glad you asked that question,” he said. “Often when I am in a meeting with my sales team or other folks, I will ask, ‘Do we have blue circle?’”

He then asked me to vision a blue circle in my mind. “Draw it on a piece of paper,” he commanded. Here’s what I drew:

“Did I answer correctly?” I asked, slightly nervous that I had done something wrong.

“That is perfect. Of course, that is a blue circle. But, look at the one that I had in mind,” he said as he turned my piece of paper around and drew this:

“So, we could have had a conversation about the blue circle that could go on for hours, days, weeks or even years, and we would never be talking about the same thing,” he says. “Do we have blue circle?’ has become a part of how we do business around here. It means, are you with me? Are we talking about the same thing? Because the biggest hurdle that we continue to face as we grow is communication.”

I was struck at the simplicity and apparent effectiveness of this model of communication. One definition that I have been struggling with lately is (embarrassingly) “small business.”

This has been especially true since I have had many meetings with bankers, lawyers and other service industries about their “small business programs.”

Some say 100 or fewer employees are a “small business.” Others said 500 or fewer. While some thought that any firm under $1 million in revenue was a small business, others said $5 million in revenue still qualified a company to be “small.”

This approach of using revenue or employees is problematic when you look at the numbers.

If you are using a revenue figure to gauge the size of a business, then most are surprised to find out that only 4% of businesses make over 1 million in revenue. The same is true for number of employees – 95% of firms have 20 or fewer.

Given that an overwhelming majority of firms fit into what most define as “small business,” perhaps we should change the name to just “business.” If being small is the norm, then the abnormal ones are truly the larger firms.

Are employees and revenue the only way that we can define the size of a business? Does being considered “small business” refer to more than size? How does “small business” relate to entrepreneurial thinking?

Scott Ginsberg (The Nametag Guy), an author, speaker and entrepreneur thinks that “small business” means more than size.

It’s an attitude of individuality and a lifestyle of freedom. Small is the new big. ‘Size matters not,’ as Yoda once said. Think about it. Craigslist is the 56th most visited site in the world. They don’t try to be big or look big. They just help people get what they want. So, comparatively, who would you rather be: the CEO of Innitech or Craig?”

Bo Burlingham, editor-at-large for Inc. magazine and author of “Small Giants,” also feels that size is necessarily a good way to distinguish what a business is or isn’t. He suggests that outside of “small” and “large,” there is a third type of business.

Some people refer to these companies as ‘gazelles.’ They are run by entrepreneurs who are very interested in growing, although not necessarily in terms of employees or revenues or geography. Some of these companies are the ones I call small giants: They could grow much faster and get much bigger but have chosen not to because they have other goals they consider more important. Others are, in fact, trying to grow as much as possible and get as big as possible. A few have already passed the threshold of bigness. Though they look like other large companies from the outside, they are still run by the entrepreneurs who founded them and still have a small business feel to them.”

A small business “feel.” An essence that cannot be easily defined.

Seth Godin has a straightforward definition that also is void of any “number of employees” or revenue figures:

I define it as a company in which the person who runs it acts like she owns the place, and in which all the people who work there understand that they have a stake that’s got leverage in the final outcome.”

So here is what I ask you:

  • What is a small business, and how do you define it as being different from a regular “business?”
  • How does the multiplicity of meanings of “small business” affect the way that businesses are perceived?
  • How does entrepreneurial or innovative spirit relate to small business?
  • Can we ever hope for “blue circle” on our definition of small business?

Write to me at jeremy@sbmon.com and I’ll publish the results in another blog.

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Jeremy Nulik, Creative Energy Officer (CEO), St. Louis Small Business Monthly

There are no good or bad questions

I recently had the opportunity to interview David Steward, co-founder of World Wide Technology – a highly successful IT systems integrator in St. Louis. Steward is an accomplished leader, a great visionary and someone that the media has already covered from many different angles.

Since there has already been a lot of ink spilled about him, it was challenging to come up with the best line of questions to get good answers. I remembered something that Ron Ameln, publisher of St. Louis Small Business Monthly told me:

Start with some lob questions. Throw him something easy to get the ball rolling before you try to dig around a bit deeper. Just listen to what he has to say. The conversation will lead to a good story.”

After following Ron’s advice, the first fifteen minutes of my conversation with Steward were an exercise in expanding my IT and business vocabulary. I couldn’t really understand the intricacies of IT system management, integration, etc. But, I did learn much about an industry that was otherwise a mystery to me.

However, after a few minutes of just listening, we got down to being real. I was able to dig around to see what makes him tick, his biggest mistakes, how he deals with success, what it was like to be an African-American business owner in the IT industry, etc.

One of the biggest mistakes that I am guilty of (and that I see others make) is that I think that I have to hammer somebody with some awesome question that I learned from a book or some brainstorming exercise.

If my experience with Steward means anything, it means that the real art-form lies in:

  • your timing of questions
  • your intent with the conversation
  • your ability to listen (The Nametag Guy has an awesome post on this)
  • your willingness to allow the other person to say what they need to say

There are not good or bad questions. In fact, the word “good” carries so much moral judgment with it that really a better word may be “effective” or “thought-provoking” or “well-timed.” After all, let’s remember our intent here:

We want to get beyond PR messaging and self-constructed veneers to get to what makes this person really tick.

That is what makes for a successful salesperson, journalist, teacher, pastor, rabbi, friend or communicator. That is what effective questioning and listening achieves.

AND (here’s the part that sucks) you can’t fake that.

Using good listening skills (eye contact, nodding, paraphrasing, etc.) only work so far in the conversation. At some point, you have to start to care enough about the other person or their objectives to put yours aside.

Here is a link to the article on World Wide Technology and David Steward – an adventure in faith and courage to see beyond circumstances. It all came to the surface because a couple of young journalists were willing to listen.

HOMEWORK

Walk in the opposite spirit. The next time you feel like talking, shut up. The next time you think you should be quiet, talk. You probably have something worth listening to.

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Jeremy Nulik, Creative Energy Officer (CEO), St. Louis Small Business Monthly


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